THE (self) LOVE QUIZ
Why Self-Love Matters
As women of faith, we’re often taught to love and serve others well—but Jesus reminds us, “Love your neighbour as yourself” (Mark 12:31). That verse quietly invites an important question: how well do we actually love ourselves?
There was a season in my life when rejection deeply shaped how I saw myself—particularly during a painful chapter in my marriage when my husband was involved in an affair. I didn’t just lose trust; I lost kindness toward myself. What I learned through healing is this: when we don’t honour who God created us to be, loving others becomes harder and heavier than it needs to be.
Self-love isn’t selfish or prideful. From a faith perspective, it’s stewardship—agreeing with God about our worth and caring for the life He’s entrusted to us.
This quiz is simply a moment to pause and reflect. No judgment—just awareness.
BE MAGAZINE FEBRUARY SELF-LOVE QUIZ
Faith, Compassion, and the Way We Treat Ourselves
HOW TO SCORE: For each statement, rate yourself from 1 to 5:
1 = Almost never
2 = Occasionally
3 = About half the time
4 = Fairly often
5 = Almost always
Write down your number for each statement, then add them up at the end.
THE SELF-LOVE QUIZ
I show myself grace when I fall short instead of dwelling on guilt.
I speak to myself with kindness rather than criticism.
When life feels heavy, I remember I am not alone in my struggles.
I allow myself to pause, rest, and reset without shame.
I forgive myself instead of replaying past mistakes.
I set boundaries that protect my peace, even when it’s uncomfortable.
I see my worth as inherent — not something I have to prove.
I honour my emotional needs instead of ignoring them.
I trust that I am growing, even when I can’t see immediate results.
I treat myself with the same compassion I freely give to others.
Maximum score: 50
UNDERSTANDING YOUR RESULTS
Score: 10–24
You may be carrying more weight than you realize. Your inner dialogue may lean toward self-criticism, pressure, or constant striving. Scripture reminds us that we are not meant to live under condemnation.
“There is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” Romans 8:1
BE Perspective: This is not a verdict, it’s an invitation. Start small. Speak gently. Rest without apology. Healing often begins with awareness.
Score: 25–39
You’re learning to balance faith, self-awareness, and compassion. Some days you extend grace to yourself; other days, old patterns return. Growth is rarely linear, and that’s okay.
“Be patient with everyone — and remember to be patient with yourself.” Inspired by 1 Thessalonians 5:14
BE Perspective: You’re in process. Trust that God’s work in you is unfolding, even when it feels unfinished.
Score: 40–50
You are rooted in self-respect, faith, and emotional maturity. You understand that caring for yourself honours the life you’ve been given. You set boundaries, practice compassion, and move forward without self-punishment. “Love your neighbour as yourself.” Mark 12:31
BE Perspective: Loving yourself well allows you to love others more fully. This is not self-focus — it’s alignment.
A FINAL REFLECTION FROM THE BE MAG TEAM:
Above all, remember this: “You are fearfully and wonderfully made.” Psalm 139:14
Self-love is not pride. It is stewardship.
From our expert in residence, Relationship Editor, Stephanie Rourke Jackson:
Wherever your score lands, remember: this is insight, not a label. Awareness is often the first step toward growth. If self-love feels challenging, you’re not alone—and you’re not behind. God is gentle with our becoming. If you’d like to talk through your results or explore what self-love could look like in this season, I’m offering a complimentary coaching call to review your quiz results. I’d love to support you: stephanie@beaconcoaching.ca
